Hello my lovely readers. Today
I have decided to make an entry under the article fickle friends again and this
is my second entry about “frenemies”. This time I want to give out my comment
on how to spot the “frenemies” among your so called “best friends”.
1) Friends That Created
Drama and Gossip.
My mommy used to say that once your friend talk about
someone to you, then eight times out of ten, they may talking about you to
someone else. Talking bad things about others obviously is a bad thing to be
practice and so much terrible. These gossips can create non-stop drama in one’s
life and surely will give negative impacts to that particular person. Gossip
can hurt other people in the long run and at the same time it can make you feel
bad about yourself. So, the strong sign to spot your” frenemies” is once you
are with them, you find that gossip happens more and more with theirs accompany.
A real friend would never waste their time talking about something that will
not bring any benefits to you. Plus, a real friend would not allow others to
talk bad about you or even anyone else as they always want to defend you from involving
in problems.
2) Friends That Are Selfish.
Next, the biggest sign of our “frenemies” is that they
will only put themselves first rather than their friends. They think about
their needs and opinions first to be considered by you almost all the time when
you are with them. Even though they show too much love and closeness with you,
but “frenemies” would never worry to reject your opinions directly or even
competing with you in unhealthy ways .Be aware that if your friends just call
you when they want or need something only, it proved that they are just your
ambivalent friend that just want to make used or take benefits from you and actually
not sincerely want to be your best friends. However, a true friend is always
there whenever you need them the most, especially when the rough times comes. A
true friend always makes effort to call or tend to meet you to see if you are
okay. Other than that, a true friend always shows that he or she cares about you;
this is what we called true sacrifice not a fake hopes and actions.
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3) Friends That Hate You To
Achieve Something Great.
Have you ever seen your friend becoming upset or mad
right after you achieved something in your life? If yes is the answer, than it
shows that you are actually having a “frenemies”. Basically, “frenemies” will
always try to fake a smile on your successfulness, but at the same time they
will try their best to persuade something negatives to you or insulting you every
time you achieved something great without you realise it. In contra with a true
friend, they will always be so supportive and shares positive encouragements to
you no matter if you are achieving something good or experiencing something
that is bad. Even though “frenemies” can be so loving and caring in front of
you, it does not mean that they are the “positive energy” of yours, but
actually they are your “negative energy” that you should not keep at all.
In short, I can say that
this “frenemies” phenomenon cannot be avoided by anyone living in this dramatic
world. Just be smart in choosing your friends so that you will not be suffering
later. So my dear readers, if you find out any criteria stated above in your
current friend, just let them go so that you can lead a better and happier
life.
