Attitude..You Have The Right To Choose !

Hye peeps its been awhile, I just get some time to at least come back here to write again. Hahaha.And today I want to talk about attitude, a word that brings many meanings.Lets just start. :) Attitude is like our action, feeling or mood. Everything we say or do will cause some effects. So here it means tht we in charge with the causes. Good attitude, good results, bad attitude, bad result. Attitude shapes our life. For most of us learning new habits can take times, it’s like we walk out from a dark tunnel to a bright light of a day. Attitude can relates in many phenomena, for example, if we willing to learn with all our might in college or school, we can achieve the best results in life, but if we don’t care of it, it will be the other way round. So here we know that what we receive in life, what we accomplished and what we get are over all attitudes of ours .Okay, firstly to develop a good attitude, one self need to develop a good attitude towards himself. Yeah, we can’t give to others smtg tht we don’t have right? so it’s the attitude we take to ourself. You can actually see a person who has a bad attitude towards others is actually having a poor attitude to himself at the first place. Maybe he is unhappy about smtg. A happy attitude commonly comes from a happy person and a bad attitude may mostly come from a person that always feel frustrated to himself. For a man or woman with a good attitude, same principle it holds, expecting the best, so that what they get, as poor attitude always expecting the worst. For example, we tend to take our self for granted, we cannot even accomplish the goal that we can reach, we tend to ignore tht there is a big undeveloped talent and ability in us that eventually can be used. Hundreds of people out there narrowed and darkened their life simply because they take a doubtful attitude towards themselves. Attitude is a reflection of a person, as they say, in the insides shows what on the outsides. Attitude can cause a brilliant result or even negative result. However, to stay in a good attitude, it should be trained by us. Successful people come from many shapes and colours, also different backgrounds and the level of knowledge, but they have one thing in common which is they aspect more good out of life than bad, they expect succeed than failure, and they do. If we don’t like our environment, we can change, don’t wait for the world to change for you. 

As we notice in life, most of the trouble lies on a poor attitude. Life is dull only to the dull people, well that is true, and also there is a saying which sounds like this "life is interesting only to interesting people". Also we need to remember that before you do something, you need to be something, Yeah some people that we can call so lucky which all the wonders happened to them and they keep having good results in life. Actually we cannot really called them as born lucky, but we may be one of them if we have a good attitude in have strong believe that we can achieve what we aim in life and work smart to get it just as they do. The results will be nothing sure than amazing I bet. If you want others to treat you with admiration and respect, treat others with admiration and respect first. Treat every person like the most important person on earth. You know why we should respect and admire others equally? Because this act itself will build an important habit in you which is for sure positive. When others get the feeling that they are important, needed and appreciated, they naturally will give their love, respect and supports to the person who fills their need. People with good attitude will naturally rise to the top. Their position is the result of their attitude. Just take this condition, on how you treat your family members, the most important people in your life, make sure your attitude is perfect because it shows your roots. And in life when people starts to annoy you in any condition, never permits yourself to drop to his level, you get me? Don’t let other’s unhappiness makes you unhappy. So after all these explanations from me about attitude, I want to show some points that are important for you people to bear in mind. First, our attitude towards others determines their attitude towards us. Second, before you achieve in life the result you want, you need to act, think and conduct the life like a person you wanted to become. Lastly, when you treat every person as the most important person in the world, both of you will benefits. :)

Behave And Love Everyone :)

Decision Making, Hard Or Easy?

In life, we can't run from making decisions.. it may be about what to wear in the morning, what colours suit you the best to attend a dinner, which TVs channel to watch, and what is your next step in life. Well it may sound easy, but it's actually not that easy. Let me just share my views about decision making. For me, to make a decision is like to decide on your next life's scene and it appears to be so hard for me. I will always avoid the situation that needed me to involves in decision making process not because I scared I will make a wrong decision, but because I am a deep thinker and when I started to think, I will never stop, believe me. :P

Yeah, as a deep thinker or some called me as an "over-thinker" may make things unsolved and more depressing for my own self, however, I do believe that in taking a decision, it should be taken seriously and it’s not something to be play on. Let me put it this way, now imagine, you are in the situation which you need to choose between attending your best friend's birthday party or accepting your family request to go for a family dinner together on the same date and at the same time. Which one will be you priority? You may say both family and friend are important, but still, a decision needed. Which will you choose?

Here it comes the dilemma and unwanted feelings, stress started to lingers around you and make you feel guilty without any reasons. Oh snap, its kinda hard right, I told you. :P So what  is your decision?

Okay, In this case, it seems a bit hard to decide, however, if I’m in this situation, I will take as much time that I have to think about it, and here comes the time when your excitement to have fun with your family or friend *either one* turns to a zero mood situation. To make a decision is now becomes your biggest issue. And as I told you guys that I hate to make decision, I noticed I love to say "No" rather than saying "Yes" to both parties so that I don't have to think much and feel guilty. Hehe. Deep thinking is not fun alright peeps, please understand :P So from this for sure I will end up sitting at home alone, *anyway, I never make this type of decision, so don't take it too seriously on whatever I just decided here :P Don't judge eh :P

Actually this post is not to help anybody on how to make a good decision, you can Google that if you want to, but I just want to make people realize that every each of us has our own style in handling a situation or in making a decision. But if you need ideas or advice on which decision to make in your life, I can help you for sure, I swear. Lol.. But don't ask me to make a decision, because there will be no answer until the end, So act as you would and don’t mind on my way of handling decision making, because I’m not a good decision maker, it always end up so wrong :P So that's all for today I guess.

Have a good day people. :)

I Bet Most Of Us Will Take Short Cut Road In Decision Making And End Up Lost :P

Questions???

Have you ever feel like sinking in the darkest path of your life?

Have you ever wondered why people come and go?

Have you ever cry for others’ mistakes on you?

Have you ever smile without any reasons?

Have you ever laugh so hard and found yourself crying at the end?

Have you ever imagine how will you die?

Have you ever ask yourself why you did something that you should not?

Have you ever dream this life would be clean as a baby’s heart?

Have you ever feel doubt on yourself? 

Have you ever feel that this life is unfair but you keep on living?

Have you ever appreciated your friends? 

Have you ever looked into your parents’ eyes just to see how much they mean to you? 

Have you ever feel clueless from the confusing issues in life?
Have you ever feel stress out from the ones you love the most?

Have you ever wish to die soon?

Have you ever smile at a cat and hug it so tight?

Have you ever will to sacrifice for others?

Have you ever help a blind to cross a road?

Have you ever buy a pack of tissue papers from a poor old man on the streets?

Have you ever closed your eyes and sleep with heart ache? 

Have you ever felt what other’s are feeling? Have you?

A Last Question, Have you ever thank God for every chances for you to questions life?

What Doesn't Kill You O.o

Here it is -----> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xn676-fLq7I

Hey peeps :D

As a music lover, I’m into many kinds of music and genres.

But today I feel like sharing this one song from Kelly Clarkson, this song sounds cool to me..it called  “What Doesn't Kill You”.

I can say that this song has a deep meaning and it relates to me in some ways. Yeah I love any songs that are meaningful plus songs that can inspire me in life. As a 19 years old girl that will turned 20 in few more lovely months...I think life had thought me many values and morals also many sadness and wicked treats from others.

From this song, it shows that one's can keep going with her/his life even though they are by their own. No doubt its true, but still we need someone to be right besides you when life started to gives you lemons.

The question is who is that ‘someone’?

For me, that ‘someone’ actually consists of three important persons who are my mom, dad and sis. They always there in any moments of my life, when I’m totally down, when I’m sick to death and when I’m too happy in achieving something in life. They never let me forgets who I really am and always influence me to be better in any condition.

Hmm, but when it come to friendships. I think I’m a bit unlucky in it. Haha, I think so. The reason why I’m saying this is because I often end up with a friend that is not really a “friend”. I’m not sure where I get wrong but mostly I experienced a sad ending of a friendship. Honestly saying, by having a best friend with same gender as us it makes it harder to keep on as we have the same qualities that sometimes can create something unpleasant. So don’t be shocked many people out there prefer to be friend with someone who is opposite gender to them.

Yeah I have started my life again and again with many new friends and many memories seem so blurred at the moment. Some of them I totally forgot and some of them are too hurting for me to keep on remembering it. One thing people don’t realised about me is every little cuts in my life that once made me bleeds always turned me to a stronger person.

Once I get hurt, I used it as a drug for me to be much stronger in achieving anything in life. Maybe people think that I am too heartless, but without them knowing, I am the most sensitive person on earth .Lol.

When I love my friends, I will love them to the fullest. But when the love never be appreciated and just the bad sides of me being chase by them, it will totally disappoints me a lot. My motto in friendship, if you really love your friend, your will never intentionally hurt them, and if you do, he or she never was your true friend in heart, just in surface it may. 

Hm, so people, never judge your friend from rumours that you listened to, ask if you have to so no fake arguments will happen that can destroy a long time friendship. Always think before you react or say anything because even a word that cut deeps can last forever even it has been forgiven.

Take your time to listen to this song if you interested to. Enjoy! J

Converting Session =]]

Find Your Passions, And You Will Find The Real You :)

Alhamdulillah all the hard works at last ended. Well this tiny-tiny little educational blog was invented for one of the English subjects named Critical Literacy which I really loved and will always do. I realised something actually that pinched me to come up with this post. In these almost 2 months semester’s holidays, I noticed that I missed to write and write and to keep writing. As this blog is getting dusty as it important works already came to an ending, I wish to make it alive again. Frankly saying I have no idea who will read this ordinary blog of mine, but it’s not the main idea of me to continue writing, I just want to write more to fill and feed my own soul.

So, I decided to call this post as “converting session” as this educational blog of mine will transformed to an ordinary simple life’s diary of a girl named Julia Fiona. It doesn’t means that I will totally forgets this subject, but actually to appreciated the existence of it and to keep it to breaths. I think by keep writing even its not related to critical literacy anymore, but by still using my critical thinking skills to create and write every new articles or we called posts, means that this subject helped me to be better English’s student in real life. This is enough to show that this blog will never be wasted. I hate to take something for granted so this is the other reason why I will keep writing.

Okay enough with the reasons, so back to the business, I don’t know if there will be many changes on the looks of this blog, I don’t think many will be seen though. By the way, I really want to give my big appreciation to Madam Zalinda, she was so into giving my friends and me knowledge even how much hard or tired she was. Thanks for everything.

Hmm, semester 4 ends and here comes the big brother semester 5.Err, sounds scary actually, but honestly I can’t wait to finish with my study here in KPMIM. Many more things to be explored out there, that what we called the real life, the real cruelness and the real aches and maybe some happiness. Just to get all of you informed, this is my first attempt of writing my own blog so no offence with whatever I’m saying here and sorry with any errors in writing, it will be my bad. Every word written here should not be misjudged as long as no names being mentioned.

Holidays this time is extra exciting for me compared to before, because I had spent so much time with my lovelies’ family members and in hope never wants it to end too soon. But this is what we called life, we need to follow the flow right? So I have to bear the reality that these holidays will end in couples of days. I am counting the days, err, not so good in math though, haha, hopes it’s the same to you. If you good at math I will assume you as a genius. Err, Okay that doesn’t makes any sense at all. As I started getting random now, I think better I just stop here.

Happy New Semester Strangers With Some Memories of Mine Out There. I mean friends. Take good care peeps. ;)

#12. Fickle Friends (2),,, How To Spot Them???

Hello my lovely readers. Today I have decided to make an entry under the article fickle friends again and this is my second entry about “frenemies”. This time I want to give out my comment on how to spot the “frenemies” among your so called “best friends”.

1) Friends That Created Drama and Gossip.

            My mommy used to say that once your friend talk about someone to you, then eight times out of ten, they may talking about you to someone else. Talking bad things about others obviously is a bad thing to be practice and so much terrible. These gossips can create non-stop drama in one’s life and surely will give negative impacts to that particular person. Gossip can hurt other people in the long run and at the same time it can make you feel bad about yourself. So, the strong sign to spot your” frenemies” is once you are with them, you find that gossip happens more and more with theirs accompany. A real friend would never waste their time talking about something that will not bring any benefits to you. Plus, a real friend would not allow others to talk bad about you or even anyone else as they always want to defend you from involving in problems.

2) Friends That Are Selfish.

            Next, the biggest sign of our “frenemies” is that they will only put themselves first rather than their friends. They think about their needs and opinions first to be considered by you almost all the time when you are with them. Even though they show too much love and closeness with you, but “frenemies” would never worry to reject your opinions directly or even competing with you in unhealthy ways .Be aware that if your friends just call you when they want or need something only, it proved that they are just your ambivalent friend that just want to make used or take benefits from you and actually not sincerely want to be your best friends. However, a true friend is always there whenever you need them the most, especially when the rough times comes. A true friend always makes effort to call or tend to meet you to see if you are okay. Other than that, a true friend always shows that he or she cares about you; this is what we called true sacrifice not a fake hopes and actions.

Don't Give Fake Hopes,
Just "Frenemies" do it!!!

3) Friends That Hate You To Achieve Something Great.

            Have you ever seen your friend becoming upset or mad right after you achieved something in your life? If yes is the answer, than it shows that you are actually having a “frenemies”. Basically, “frenemies” will always try to fake a smile on your successfulness, but at the same time they will try their best to persuade something negatives to you or insulting you every time you achieved something great without you realise it. In contra with a true friend, they will always be so supportive and shares positive encouragements to you no matter if you are achieving something good or experiencing something that is bad. Even though “frenemies” can be so loving and caring in front of you, it does not mean that they are the “positive energy” of yours, but actually they are your “negative energy” that you should not keep at all.

In short, I can say that this “frenemies” phenomenon cannot be avoided by anyone living in this dramatic world. Just be smart in choosing your friends so that you will not be suffering later. So my dear readers, if you find out any criteria stated above in your current friend, just let them go so that you can lead a better and happier life.

#11. Are you a Romantic or Libertine???...Hurmm...

This article written by Dr. M. Scott Peck is really fun and interesting to be read by us. Before I go further, let me tell all of you the readers a little bit about what this article is all about. Basically, this article is exposing on two types of lovers which are romantic and libertine. A romantic is a lover that will do anything for their partner to show how much they love their partner. For example, they may buy lots of gift and prepared so many surprises for their partner. They give out 100% of their love to their partner and may be hurting a lot because they always forgive and accept the bitter situation in the relationship without thinking about their own selves. They prefer to suffer than break the relationship as their love is too strong. Compared to libertine, this type of lover will put their selves first and then only their partner. Commonly, it will not be hurting much for libertine if they experience breakup in a relationship as they not give the full commitment in the love relationship. Libertine also practices great strategies to keep them feel loved as well as secured in love life.

True love? or True games?

To comment on this article, what I can say is that both types of lovers are true in love, but just the way they carry themselves as a lover are different. As for me, I cannot identify what type of lover I can be as I am not in any relationship at the moment. But to think in a logical way, for me by being both romantic and libertine at the same time will be the best things to be practice in the love life. From my view, by giving much love and at the same time making your own self as the priority compared to your partner is the good way to avoid broken hearted moments. Just imagine, once you make your partner as your priority or we called is as your “everything” it may causes you to forget about your own right and needs that surely will give you a hard moments to go through in your love life.

I have seen many love stories based on my friend’s experiences. What I can say here is that most of them are the “romantic” types and they always feels that they are the cause of the break up between them and their partner even though they are in the right party and they are actually not guilty at all. However, I do have few friends that practice “libertine” type of lover and they seem so happy all the time in their love life. They always can manage their problem with their partners with their own “genius” strategies. But basically, they are not serious enough in their love life with their partner and they prefer to change partner regularly without any regrets or even any heart aches.

Tell me, which one is your TYPE? ;)

In short, I can say that either romantic or libertine, we humans should choose the best when it comes to love as it not something that can be played like a game.Just appreciate the best moments together and never lose the faith. Take care and good luck from me to the happy couples out there. =D