#11. Are you a Romantic or Libertine???...Hurmm...

This article written by Dr. M. Scott Peck is really fun and interesting to be read by us. Before I go further, let me tell all of you the readers a little bit about what this article is all about. Basically, this article is exposing on two types of lovers which are romantic and libertine. A romantic is a lover that will do anything for their partner to show how much they love their partner. For example, they may buy lots of gift and prepared so many surprises for their partner. They give out 100% of their love to their partner and may be hurting a lot because they always forgive and accept the bitter situation in the relationship without thinking about their own selves. They prefer to suffer than break the relationship as their love is too strong. Compared to libertine, this type of lover will put their selves first and then only their partner. Commonly, it will not be hurting much for libertine if they experience breakup in a relationship as they not give the full commitment in the love relationship. Libertine also practices great strategies to keep them feel loved as well as secured in love life.

True love? or True games?

To comment on this article, what I can say is that both types of lovers are true in love, but just the way they carry themselves as a lover are different. As for me, I cannot identify what type of lover I can be as I am not in any relationship at the moment. But to think in a logical way, for me by being both romantic and libertine at the same time will be the best things to be practice in the love life. From my view, by giving much love and at the same time making your own self as the priority compared to your partner is the good way to avoid broken hearted moments. Just imagine, once you make your partner as your priority or we called is as your “everything” it may causes you to forget about your own right and needs that surely will give you a hard moments to go through in your love life.

I have seen many love stories based on my friend’s experiences. What I can say here is that most of them are the “romantic” types and they always feels that they are the cause of the break up between them and their partner even though they are in the right party and they are actually not guilty at all. However, I do have few friends that practice “libertine” type of lover and they seem so happy all the time in their love life. They always can manage their problem with their partners with their own “genius” strategies. But basically, they are not serious enough in their love life with their partner and they prefer to change partner regularly without any regrets or even any heart aches.

Tell me, which one is your TYPE? ;)

In short, I can say that either romantic or libertine, we humans should choose the best when it comes to love as it not something that can be played like a game.Just appreciate the best moments together and never lose the faith. Take care and good luck from me to the happy couples out there. =D

#10. Fickle Friends.. Pals or Foes ????

Have you ever had a friend that love to give you fake hopes? Have you ever experienced a good friend that showered you with loves and at the end leave you alone without any clues? Have you ever feel so stress out because of your so called best friend forever’s behaviour towards you? If the answers are yes, then it means you are experiencing the same cases like I used to experience before and have to admit that I am still experiencing it until now which is I am having loads of ambivalent friends.

Fickle friends’ article is actually explaining on how we humans are actually busy collecting stones without realising that actually we are forgetting about the diamonds .What I tried to say is actually one’s always be happy and appreciated the wrong person and ignored the most valuable friend of them. Plus, this article also makes me realised that actually, our own closest friend can be our worst enemy without we realising it. I am 100% agreed on this article as it only talking about the truth that happens in a friendship.

In friendships, I can say that I always give so much commitment in it and will always try to be a good friend for my friends out there. However, all these time, since I was in the secondary school until now, I always end up meeting “frenemies”. Why this happened? Well, as this article written by Kirsten Weir exposed, this phenomenon of “frenemies” happens as there are so much jealousy, criticisms and rejection from a “frenemies” to their good friend.

Yes it is true that you really do love your friend so much, but in reality, ambivalent friends will never actually really feeling happy for any of your success in life, but they just pretend to be. My motto in life is being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones. What I tried to say is it will be better to suffer your misery life or problems with the “real” friend than wasting it on the “fake” friends that actually will never care about your sadness.

My only sister is my best friend since now and than <3

Actually my dear readers, I am so proud of my heart, it has been played, stabbed, cheated, burned and broken, but somehow it still works. Do not you wonder why I still can survive even though I am already broken so badly? The answer is my family. Our family is our strength, a place to get pure love and understanding, and also a place for you to feel safe from the fake world that we are living in. Even how bad your family members are, they will never hurt you, and they will always make you as their priority more than they should be. Just your family left for you to keep on living at the hardest time of your life, they will not run away from their responsibilities, they will as hard as they can to help you to simplified the problems you are having, in contrast with the ambivalent friends of yours, they can giggles nonstop with you and cling with you all day long and when you meet a biggest problem of your life, they will suddenly disappeared from the view of your eyes.

Who does not love their friend right? We never want to lose our friends even though they are our “frenemies”, but one thing for sure is why should we keep the pain of having them in our life as we can let them go and lead a better as well as a happier life? For me, having an ambivalent friend can cause a bad depression, even me myself used to be so stressed with my so called “best friend” as she who I thought the one who I can rely and believe on actually was just using me and tried to drag my spirit down all the time. Nobody wants to hear this, but sometimes, the person you want most is the person you're best without.

Plus, a fake smile, a random laugh, even an occasional smiley face in a text message surely will make an innocent friend fall for these fake attitudes from their fickle friends. Obviously “frenemies” is not a good type of friend that we should keep them nicely with all our efforts. However, if you are too weak to let go of your friendship with your “frenemies”, my advice for you is you should manage and control your friendship as much as you can so it will not be worsen and effects you emotionally or even mentally. Just be honest in whatever you do and in whatever you say. Don't 'keep' things. There's always a way, if our intentions are pure, God is always there to shows His mercy to you.

All in all, do not judge your friend by the things that they have choose to showed to you, keep in mind that what you have seen are just the things that your friends wanted to show to you, but it may remains or change, so if you having the most best friend in your life right now, do not be surprised if that particular person can be your worst foe in future. To my fickle friends, my last word for all of you is that I forgive, but I will never forget.

Just a reminder dearies :)

#9. Movie: The Great Debaters.

Oprah Winfrey and her production have produced a great inspirational movie that based on a true story called “The Great Debaters”. This interesting movie that kept my eyes wide opened when I was watching it actually is about Willey College debate team who participated in the first collegiate interracial debate in the United States. Honestly saying, after I watched this movie, I felt like I just got out from a small box in my mind and my thinking style opened wide. I can feel the courage and braveness in me after watching this heart touching movie.

As a communication student, I felt so lucky to watch this movie as it exposed much on communication skills and how to gain high self-esteem. One thing that most important in this movie is it thought me the meaning of the real teamwork and how to appreciate each members in a group.

This is one of the picture from the 
program that I had joined, even kids joined it.

Based on my experience, I used to participate in a 6 months program that focuses on confident level when I was in form 5. In that program, I learned how to talk in high tones of voice and how to not  to be shy in front of the large audience as I was presenting my finale activity on the stage after the interesting 6 months in front of 1000 audiences in Kuala Lumpur. I had practiced my vocal cues before the finale by screaming many simple words as loud as I can while looking straight to the high tree that standing in front of us with my group members with our strict guider's observation. Actually my group members and I presented the treasure of Kuala Lumpur that we found in many ways of speaking that mixed with some arts. This memory came back to me after I watched the scene where the Willy College debate team shouted as loud as they can toward their teacher that located in a small boat at a lake to get the best in their tones of speaking and get the best for the tournaments later.

Moreover, I was so amazed by many educational quotes that have been exposed in this movie by the actors and the actress. They shared many hidden meanings from the quotes used by them .I have to admit that I used my critical thinking skill a lot when I watched this movie as the words and sentences used were more to old literacy style and so deep in meaning.

For my last word on this movie, I think this movie not only exposing on how to get good communication skills, but it also thought us that each of us living in this world will surely experienced stereotype treatment from others, so it is important for us to be brave and try as hard as we can to achieve triumph and victory in life even no matter what colour your skin is. I love this story so much and I hope to watch it again next time if I get the chance.

Racist people are not allowed here in my blog.Thank You :)

#8. Movie: Animal Farm

Today I’m writing a review on one of the movie that I had watched it in the Language Lab (MPCIM) with my fellow friends of DECOM 4D and our lovely lecturer Madam Zalinda which entitled “Animal Farm”. This movie directed by John Stephenson and this movie of him carried such a big meaning that showed us about the life of animals among human beings in a farm. Before I go further, let me tell you all the readers a little bit about this movie’s story line. Basically, Animal Farm exposed a story of a group of different species of animals living together and seeking for revenge to their owners which are humans. They want to get their right as God’s creatures in this world by make the people realised their mistakes and wicked treats towards them the animals. The animals in the farm have to work even they do not willing to do those works and if they refused, like always they will be beaten and forced to do the heavy works. The saddest part is these animals have to work so much hard even without getting a single piece of foods from the farm’s owners. These animals started to realise that actually they just being used by humans and humans just want the benefits from them, once they got it all, they will throw them animals just like that. So, one day, the animals gathered and decided to rule their life by their own, not by the cruel humans anymore. The pig named Napoleon is the leader of these animal missions to have a free life. Napoleon is the smartest among others but at the same time, he is the most selfish pig. Napoleon misused the trust given to him and started to behave like humans and ignores the other animals’ needs.

After I watched this movie, I just got a great moral value which is we should not be selfish or proud of what we have at the moment as it will not last long and we should not threat others with cruelty and humanity is the best thing to be practice in our life. Furthermore, I think we humans should not abuse animals and treat them badly as they never did anything wrong to us. Honestly I can see that animals somehow are more kind and generous compared to men. They work hard to keep on living and never give up in life even how hard these animals have to face it. I am actually one of the animal lovers, I used to pet more than 30 cats since I was in kindergarten. As far as I seen, these animals always appreciate our kindness and never betrays us with any bad habits, except for their nature as an animal, everybody should know about that and we cannot stop those.

He's rescuing his pet cat and pet duck from floodwater, 
Awhh, such a heart touching moment. isn't it.. :)

It really makes me upsets to see how some human beings nowadays kill and abuse the animal without mercy towards them. Always bear in mind people, without those animals, we human cannot survive living in this world for so long, just think deeply of why I am saying this, then you will understand. In my opinion, as long as we respect and treat each other well doesn’t matter among humans or among other creatures, no problems will occur and we can always lead a happy and peaceful life together.

I give my highest respect to John Stephenson as he gave us opportunity to know more about how animal feels like living with us humans all these while. Animal Farm should never be missed, so just download this movie and watch it, maybe you can watch it with accompany of your pets maybe, if you have one I mean. Just enjoy this meaningful movie peoples.

#7. Men and Women Are Merely Players?..Of Course..

Seriously, he is a talented writer .

The article “Men and Women are merely players” by Robert Greene actually explained that every people is playing their own fixed or gifted roles without they realised that sometimes they need to change that role for their good. This article does attract my attention as it opened the real story of people living in this world that most of them are fakes and just like an actress and actor playing their roles to achieve triumph in their life.

My perspective about people totally changed after I read this article as now I realised that people that shows the innocent and sincerity to us might not as good as they seen because people dare to be fake to act as good as they can to manipulated other’s thinking about their real self and to gain the benefits of life as much as they can .All the people living in this ordinary world doesn’t matter man or woman always want to achieve the highest power and prosperity in life, so in  order to achieve those things, they have to play a new role in life to fool others.

Even though this thing sounds bad, but this is the real things happening around us all this while .Each of us may be happy or may not happy bringing our own roles, but just bear in mind that every roles that we are having at the moment may change without we ourselves realising it. Any intentions of the people around us either they are our friends or not should be consider wisely before we just accepting them without any curiosity because it will kill you slowly later in future.

Let me show you an example from my experience, which I used to trust in my so called best friend too much and shared all my tiny little secrets with this particular person, I felt so sure to believe in her before because of her innocent looks and her politeness that hard for me to find any person that alike her nowadays. However, when it comes to getting the best in life, she forgot that she actually had a friend called “Julia” and ran away from me to get the best in life which mean she left me hanging and find a new friend, even though she used to hate her new friend so much before in past, but she prefers to pretend like she likes her new friend just to get a greater benefits in life compared from what she can get from me. I took this experienced as a tool for me to be stronger and wiser in choosing friends. As saying always says, experience is the best teacher, right? So, for me, by being selfish and changing our characters and roles without considering other's feeling is something unacceptable to be done.

  

Obviously we cannot stop this dilemma of human beings that are just merely players, but we may protect our self from being manipulated or used by them by being aware of this fake people .Never ever try to be anyone else because the best comes from oneself. In summary, to achieve triumph in life, changing roles is not the best solution, but the hard works will be the answer. Keep away the “dramas” friends. J

Believe it or just leave it.. :)