Have you ever had a friend
that love to give you fake hopes? Have you ever experienced a good friend that
showered you with loves and at the end leave you alone without any clues? Have
you ever feel so stress out because of your so called best friend forever’s
behaviour towards you? If the answers are yes, then it means you are
experiencing the same cases like I used to experience before and have to admit
that I am still experiencing it until now which is I am having loads of
ambivalent friends.
Fickle friends’ article is
actually explaining on how we humans are actually busy collecting stones
without realising that actually we are forgetting about the diamonds .What I
tried to say is actually one’s always be happy and appreciated the wrong person
and ignored the most valuable friend of them. Plus, this article also makes me
realised that actually, our own closest friend can be our worst enemy without
we realising it. I am 100% agreed on this article as it only talking about the
truth that happens in a friendship.
In friendships, I can say
that I always give so much commitment in it and will always try to be a good
friend for my friends out there. However, all these time, since I was in the
secondary school until now, I always end up meeting “frenemies”. Why this
happened? Well, as this article written by Kirsten Weir exposed, this
phenomenon of “frenemies” happens as there are so much jealousy, criticisms and
rejection from a “frenemies” to their good friend.
Yes it is true that you
really do love your friend so much, but in reality, ambivalent friends will
never actually really feeling happy for any of your success in life, but they
just pretend to be. My motto in life is being sad with the right people is
better than being happy with the wrong ones. What I tried to say is it will be
better to suffer your misery life or problems with the “real” friend than
wasting it on the “fake” friends that actually will never care about your
sadness.
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| My only sister is my best friend since now and than <3 |
Actually my dear readers, I
am so proud of my heart, it has been played, stabbed, cheated, burned and
broken, but somehow it still works. Do not you wonder why I still can survive
even though I am already broken so badly? The answer is my family. Our family
is our strength, a place to get pure love and understanding, and also a place
for you to feel safe from the fake world that we are living in. Even how bad
your family members are, they will never hurt you, and they will always make
you as their priority more than they should be. Just your family left for you
to keep on living at the hardest time of your life, they will not run away from
their responsibilities, they will as hard as they can to help you to simplified
the problems you are having, in contrast with the ambivalent friends of yours,
they can giggles nonstop with you and cling with you all day long and when you
meet a biggest problem of your life, they will suddenly disappeared from the
view of your eyes.
Who does not love their
friend right? We never want to lose our friends even though they are our “frenemies”,
but one thing for sure is why should we keep the pain of having them in our
life as we can let them go and lead a better as well as a happier life? For me,
having an ambivalent friend can cause a bad depression, even me myself used to
be so stressed with my so called “best friend” as she who I thought the one who
I can rely and believe on actually was just using me and tried to drag my
spirit down all the time. Nobody wants to hear this, but
sometimes, the person you want most is the person you're best without.
Plus, a fake smile, a random
laugh, even an occasional smiley face in a text message surely will make an
innocent friend fall for these fake attitudes from their fickle friends.
Obviously “frenemies” is not a good type of friend that we should keep them
nicely with all our efforts. However, if you are too weak to let go of your
friendship with your “frenemies”, my advice for you is you should manage and
control your friendship as much as you can so it will not be worsen and effects
you emotionally or even mentally. Just be honest in whatever
you do and in whatever you say. Don't 'keep' things. There's always a way, if
our intentions are pure, God is always there to shows His mercy to you.
All in all, do not judge
your friend by the things that they have choose to showed to you, keep in mind
that what you have seen are just the things that your friends wanted to show to
you, but it may remains or change, so if you having the most best friend in
your life right now, do not be surprised if that particular person can be your
worst foe in future. To my fickle friends, my last word for all of you is that
I forgive, but I will never forget.
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| Just a reminder dearies :) |
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